(everything with an * is a free resource) 

Books first:

1. It’s okay that you’re not be okay by Megan Devine’s book is non-dogmatic, non-toxic positivity, her husband died suddenly and she is a therapist and became a grief expert after learning that the way we talk about grief from a psychological standpoint is not enough- it’s not linear, and it’s different every time.)*or her accompanying website: refugeingrief.com (this website and book are quite helpful for human death support- the website starts with an option to click one button if you’re the griever, and another button if you’re wanting to support someone who is grieving).

2. The Smell of Rain on Dust by Martin Prectel (he reads the audio version- which I highly highly recommend).
3. “Life, Death, Grief, and the possibility of Pleasure”– book by the incredible death doula Oceana Sawyer who is on the frontier and death and grief work and is a beautiful human who I got to interview last year- she features a bunch of inspiring people throughout the book so many perspectives are voiced.
4. Die Wise by Stephen Jenkinson (while this book is more about our society’s relationship with death, grief is of course wrapped up in this and his coined term “cultural orphans”- which I am- and many are in North America, really helped me to process my grief around living so far from my ancestors bones, and not knowing where those bones are!)
5. Earth Grief by Stephen Harrod Buhner (an incredible author and herbalist who just died and so lots of fresh grief about an elder in this realm being physically gone… this is another one focussing on the climate crisis and extinction, which is a way into grieving for me, and may be for you too.)

And now the *free resources:

1. *Climate Grief Massive database of articles and videos to support you (Joanna Macy started this incredible organization and ecological grief activism path)
2. *If you want to talk to someone anonymously about your grief or fears around death and dying call 800-565-9731: The Listening Line
3. *A Sacred Passing’s K-12 death and dying curriculum (again this is more about dying and death and how to talk to your kids about it BUT I believe that if we could get more comfortable with death, then grieving could happen in real time, and the grief backlog would not be added to.) It’s my dream that someday grief and death curriculum like this will be in all schools!
4. *Here’s a video poem I made to help people process and open their sensory body, (which helps with digesting grief and planning for your death- which will happen):  “The Stages of Death”
5. *Here’s an article through a naturopathic doctor’s lens looking at the biology of digesting grief.
6. *I hold monthly Somatic Mourning Gatherings on the new moon, if you’d like to attend email me and I’ll add you to that list- there is no charge to attend but rather a donation to my community service grief and death project. At these gatherings we digest our personal or collective grief through gentle somatic breathing and movement techniques, TRE (tension and trauma release exercises), body scans or yoga nidra, and an optional sharing circle.
7. *The La Lune De Mort Ensemble and Project has created a theatre ritual called “YOUR FUNERAL: a celebration of life on the eve of the 6th great extinction”- They explore personal, collective, and specifically ecological extinction grief in this play and project and if you want to be in it or attend it in the future (it’s more about community engagement and being relational than anything else,) just email them at lalunedemort@gmail.com
8. Grief can often intersect with mental health: One Woman Hamlet is a deeply powerful and helpful project that destigmatizes mental health and shares many resources as well.
9. death, me, dying tree’s free Resources webpage has even more sources to help you with processing and planning for death, which supports the grieving process because if all that paperwork is out of the way you can be really present during death. 
10. M. Abeo’s work with destigmatizing suicide and providing support: The Faces of Fortitude 
11. Motherwort (the herb) is a profound ally for supporting the grieving body and self. I recommend making an overnight infusion. To do this put a handful of motherwort into a quart sized mason jar. Fill the jar with boiling water and cover. Let it sit out overnight. In the morning strain it into a glass. Perhaps even talk to this infusion, sharing your grief with it, and then drink it (it will be bitter, but bitter is good for the body and strangely helpful with grief- especially when grief is being expressed as rage). This tiny ritual is a way to take the metabolizing of grief metaphor and make it practical, physical, and active. 

These resources do require a financial exchange:

1. Grief in the workplace and BIPOC resources by Alicia Forneret (if you want to either encourage your workplace to start supporting it’s employees in this way or you are a boss and want to add this essential service to your business!)
2. 1:1 Sessions or rituals with me (focused on somatic and physical/embodiment techniques to help the movement and digestion of grief). Grief can be unspeakable and seem un-processable, if you need further assistance I’m here to help you metabolize this pain.
3. Find a local death doula to help you organize funeral/memorial/burial.  (This is again more of a death resource but I keep it in my grief resources because I feel that if you have the support of a death doula when a loved one is dying, then you’ll be able to be more present with your grieving process, and let the death doula deal with the logistics).
4. The Guided Mourning Ritual for companion animals who have transitioned, it can also be used for any kind of heartache/grief.
5. Sacred Thresholds Celebrant & Eulogist for Pets  a colleague I really trust with pet death support and eulogy making specifically.
6. Fauna Speak: Animals in Spirit (a way to communicate with your loved one) and this is an incredible way to come into relationship with the more than human world through any of Fauna Speak’s events (monthly *free* whale and dolphin circles). I’ve found that the whales and most animals have a thing or two to say about grief.
7. Vocalist FayePatrick Kennedy creates soundscapes to support the grieving process and is also a mourning singer. I’ve sought their soundscape support when taking my animal companions in for scary procedures at the veterinarian, and to grieve some of my own mini-deaths (not physical) in life. I also plan to have them create a soundscape for my own funeral to support my loved one’s grief metabolization for me, if I die first.
8. Nurtured Voices: Another pair of colleagues I really trust with helping to move emotions through art and sound- I recently went through a body mapping/soul art series of sessions to help me grieve what I’d lost (my physical health for a moment, luckily it is found) after a car wreck.
9. Artist Stephanie Hannay lovingly paints memorial portraits of companion animals, I highly recommend getting a portrait of your loved one if it’ll help your grieving process, and it’s an incredibly beautiful memorial to your loved one.